From a short self-description, you might understand me better.

Since I was an adolescent, I have looked for the answer to who I am. There were different answers as time passed. When I was in my high school, I could be generally described as tense, quiet and sensitive. In the past, my anxiety became worse and subsequently made me depressed by the time I lived in a negative family environment.

However, during the time when I have studied in the U.S, I have met new friends and adapted for new environments. In this circumstance, I began to face up to my anxiety and think about what kind of person I want to be. Instead of depression, I look at my identity in a different perspective and define myself as a mediator with three essential feature.

Initially, warmth is one of my characteristics. I love dogs and cats, and I am warm-hearted to all animals. Five years ago, my mother and I adopted an abandoned cat from the street nearby our house. I always stayed with the cat to make her feel safe and secure, even when I was doing my assignments. Furthermore, I have a gifted empathy with animals and humans, which helps me understand their mood better. One time, I ate lunch with one of my friends. While we were having lunch, we were talking about our future, and she was superficially normal.

However, she seemed too distracted to listen to me. Indeed, I felt something was wrong, so I asked her what happened. She kept silence and avoided eye contact. I did not know why, but I moved towards her and hugged her. She was surprised. I did not say anything and just kept hugging her. She started crying in my arms and hugged me back. After that day, I received a message from her, which said, “Thank you Lychee. I did not know how to express my sadness, but your hug and warm heart gave me comfort and emotional support.”

Another typical trait which makes me who I am is altruistic. For me, giving is the most valuable thing in the world. I will give or share my belongings with others when people need it. Once, it was suddenly raining, and I got soaked in the rain. I bought one umbrella as I was on the way to school, but the rain stopped when I arrived at the library. For this reason, I gave the umbrella to the library in case that someone could use it when this kind of situation happened again later.

Additionally, if others have a problem, I always do my best to assist them without expecting any rewards in return. When I was six, my mother lived in a hospital. One day after she and I had lunch, I saw an old lady, who shared the same room with my mother, had not eaten anything since that morning. My mother informed me that nobody took care of the old lady because her children worked far from here. Without telling my mother, I spent my mother’s money to buy a lunch box for the old lady and brought it to her. The old lady was touched and expressed her gratitude and appreciation by giving me ten dollars, but I refused the reward and let her keep the secret.

Finally, seeking harmony to maintain my relationships is the primary personality characteristic that has made me become a mediator.

“To see things. And to understand,” is my motto, which is being presented on my opening blog page. I am attracted to this sentence that matches with my purpose of life.

In my whole life, I have played an indispensable role who resolves conflicts between parents, friends, and others through communication. I have never totally disagreed with someone’s opinion publicly or privately. Instead, I will respect and perceive their situation to understand their ideas. Last year, my friends had conflict after traveling together. One of my friends Hazel told me she and one of my friends had fought each other in a scenic area. To repair their relationship, I was an excellent listener to understand what happened and why they argued. I spoke to them individually about our memory and the time we spent together. Now, their relationship is back to normal.

From a short self-description, you might understand me better. Warmth, altruism and harmony have made me a special and unique mediator who attempts to negotiate between people involved in conflicts. Although I like my identity as a mediator, such as I prefer laughing with other people but not at the expense of others, I am still finding my balance between taking care of others and taking care of myself.

Sometimes I was giving too much attention to others who needed help rather than myself.

Apparently, it is more critical for me to have a good understanding of my own needs and be able to do what I want to do. Alternatively, I hope everyone can figure out what they really want to do and try to become who they want to be.