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The Mediator

From a short self-description, you might understand me better.

Since I was an adolescent, I have looked for the answer to who I am. There were different answers as time passed. When I was in my high school, I could be generally described as tense, quiet and sensitive. In the past, my anxiety became worse and subsequently made me depressed by the time I lived in a negative family environment.

However, during the time when I have studied in the U.S, I have met new friends and adapted for new environments. In this circumstance, I began to face up to my anxiety and think about what kind of person I want to be. Instead of depression, I look at my identity in a different perspective and define myself as a mediator with three essential feature.


Initially, warmth is one of my characteristics. I love dogs and cats, and I am warm-hearted to all animals. Five years ago, my mother and I adopted an abandoned cat from the street nearby our house. I always stayed with the cat to make her feel safe and secure, even when I was doing my assignments. Furthermore, I have a gifted empathy with animals and humans, which helps me understand their mood better. One time, I ate lunch with one of my friends. While we were having lunch, we were talking about our future, and she was superficially normal.

However, she seemed too distracted to listen to me. Indeed, I felt something was wrong, so I asked her what happened. She kept silence and avoided eye contact. I did not know why, but I moved towards her and hugged her. She was surprised. I did not say anything and just kept hugging her. She started crying in my arms and hugged me back. After that day, I received a message from her, which said, “Thank you Lychee. I did not know how to express my sadness, but your hug and warm heart gave me comfort and emotional support.”


Another typical trait which makes me who I am is altruistic. For me, giving is the most valuable thing in the world. I will give or share my belongings with others when people need it. Once, it was suddenly raining, and I got soaked in the rain. I bought one umbrella as I was on the way to school, but the rain stopped when I arrived at the library. For this reason, I gave the umbrella to the library in case that someone could use it when this kind of situation happened again later.

Additionally, if others have a problem, I always do my best to assist them without expecting any rewards in return. When I was six, my mother lived in a hospital. One day after she and I had lunch, I saw an old lady, who shared the same room with my mother, had not eaten anything since that morning. My mother informed me that nobody took care of the old lady because her children worked far from here. Without telling my mother, I spent my mother’s money to buy a lunch box for the old lady and brought it to her. The old lady was touched and expressed her gratitude and appreciation by giving me ten dollars, but I refused the reward and let her keep the secret.


Finally, seeking harmony to maintain my relationships is the primary personality characteristic that has made me become a mediator.

“To see things. And to understand,” is my motto, which is being presented on my opening blog page. I am attracted to this sentence that matches with my purpose of life.

In my whole life, I have played an indispensable role who resolves conflicts between parents, friends, and others through communication. I have never totally disagreed with someone’s opinion publicly or privately. Instead, I will respect and perceive their situation to understand their ideas. Last year, my friends had conflict after traveling together. One of my friends Hazel told me she and one of my friends had fought each other in a scenic area. To repair their relationship, I was an excellent listener to understand what happened and why they argued. I spoke to them individually about our memory and the time we spent together. Now, their relationship is back to normal.


From a short self-description, you might understand me better. Warmth, altruism and harmony have made me a special and unique mediator who attempts to negotiate between people involved in conflicts. Although I like my identity as a mediator, such as I prefer laughing with other people but not at the expense of others, I am still finding my balance between taking care of others and taking care of myself.

Sometimes I was giving too much attention to others who needed help rather than myself.

Apparently, it is more critical for me to have a good understanding of my own needs and be able to do what I want to do. Alternatively, I hope everyone can figure out what they really want to do and try to become who they want to be.

09/23/2016Comments are off for this post.

“12 Rules for Life”

Of my principle for life, afterward scanning 12 Rules for Life by Jordan B Peterson.

Yet the following rules are created to provide a more constricted standard for my rest of life:

1. Cook together with those who I love and live with.

2. Choose the side that benefits self for a long term.

3. Push self to do some crazy things from the bucket list.

4. Manipulate my time and environment.

5. I am the best, and I can do what I want.

6. Make gifts whatever handwritten letters or something handmade, and they create presents as a return.

7. Keep the closest organized, as well as give up useless clothes.

8. Live in a perfectly fit bedroom.

9. Build and design an own house where has a gym, a billiard table, a table soccer and a projector.

10. Not just see others but look at self.

11. Plan ahead when setting a goal.

12. Despite sometimes amnesia, don't be afraid to be the person who only looks forward to the entire life.

 

 


And here is the answer "What are the most valuable things everyone should know?" by him:

· Tell the truth.

· Do not do things that you hate.

· Act so that you can tell the truth about how you act.

· Pursue what is meaningful, not what is expedient.

· If you have to choose, be the one who does things, instead of the one who is seen to do things.

· Pay attention.

· Assume that the person you are listening to might know something you need to know. Listen to them hard enough so that they will share it with you.

· Plan and work diligently to maintain the romance in your relationships.

· Be careful who you share the good news with.

· Be careful who you share the bad news with.

· Make at least one thing better every single place you go.

· Imagine who you could be, and then aim single-mindedly at that.

· Do not allow yourself to become arrogant or resentful.

· Try to make one room in your house as beautiful as possible.

· Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.

· Work as hard as you possibly can on at least one thing and see what happens.

· If old memories still make you cry, write them down carefully and completely.

· Maintain your connections with people.

· Do not carelessly denigrate social institutions or artistic achievement.

· Treat yourself as if you were someone that you are responsible for helping.

· Ask someone to do you a small favor, so that he or she can ask you to do one in the future.

· Make friends with people who want the best for you.

· Do not try to rescue someone who does not want to be rescued, and be very careful about rescuing someone who does.

· Nothing well done is insignificant.

· Set your house in perfect order before you criticize the world.

· Dress like the person you want to be.

· Be precise in your speech.

· Stand up straight with your shoulders back.

· Don't avoid something frightening if it stands in your way -- and don't do unnecessarily dangerous things.

· Do not let your children do anything that makes you dislike them.

· Do not transform your wife into a maid.

· Do not hide unwanted things in the fog.

· Notice that opportunity lurks where responsibility has been abdicated.

· Read something written by someone great.

· Pet a cat when you encounter one on the street.

· Do not bother children when they are skateboarding.

· Don't let bullies get away with it.

· Write a letter to the government if you see something that needs fixing -- and propose a solution.

· Remember that what you do not yet know is more important than what you already know.

· Be grateful in spite of your suffering.

Be deliberate and systematic.